there was a time in my life i became afraid to fall in love cuz everytime this happens, i get hurt..i thought that's why it's called falling in love..i would give my all, loving deeply and wholeheartedly..it would be a truly emotional, extremely euphoric experience..i would be dreaming about the object of my affection all day and night, imagining the good times we've shared, thinking of what i can do or buy for him to show how much i care..i would feel light as a feather, energized and excited..literally blooming with the joy i feel inside..

then somehow, things would go wrong and my whole world would crash..disappointment..anger..pain..why? can we not love without feeling pain? is it the price to pay for all the happiness we felt when were inlove? should we juz accept that cuz we took the risk of getting hurt? it was only after months of soul searching, and reading inspirational writings that i realize that we can love without getting hurt..only recently did i understand what unconditional love is all about..

love is the most powerful force in the universe..it is the fire that burns inside, the true essence of being human..love is the source of all our comfort and contentment..it is a precious gift that defines our purpose in life..if we keep in mind that we indeed, can preserve its true meaning, we can love to the fullest and stay happy for the rest of our lives..

accept that other people love differently..how do u express love? u say "i love u" 3x a day, kiss and embrace as often as u can..u never forget anniversaries, u always prepare his fave dishes, and the likes..how does he express love? he rarely says "i love u", he seldom kisses u, he forgets ur bday, and he doesn't know how to cook..but he works overtime, takes out the garbage, takes u to movies and calls u honey..he probably loves u more than u can imagine, he juz shows it in a different way..if u can accept that, then u will have a healthier perspective of ur relationship..

derive happiness from giving love for there is an undesirable joy in giving it..cherish the satisfaction in having given someone something of urself..whether it is appreciated or not, find joy in simply giving..

this is where pain comes in..when u demand something in return for the love u give..u're setting urself up to disappointment cuz love cannot always be reciprocal..love between two people can never be of the same intensity at the same time and place..no matter how much ur partner loves u, he will never be able to fill ur needs at once..and u will be in the worst situation if u should love only when u are sure to recieve equal love in return..u will be waiting in misery forever..love now..the past is gone and the future is juz a dream..all of ur yesterdays' aches, pains and laughters are mere memories..let them go..fantasies and worries are for the future that may never come..don't dwell on them..live, give, do and enjoy it now..that's the secret of genuine contentment..when u insist upon urself that others say u always have to be in control, that u always have to be right, that others must always please u, u put urself on a very tight spot..

loving relationships are very flexible, dynamic and revolving..leave room for change and interaction..allow for new behavior and learning experiences..when we welcome these into our lives, we open ourselves to sharing more love and affection--less frustration and pain..yes, u will say unconditional love is easier said than done..i agree, especially when we always believed that love is give and take..but try believing that love is simply giving..u will be surprised that a lot of it actually comes back to u..

that's life and love..when one is sorrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness..

love shows up in all forms..even very small and cheeky forms..it has never been a model, it could be the dullest and boring form..flowers and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship..under all this, the pillar of true love stands..

Ciao!!